ECEC® System by Megan Paige

Principle 1

Many people equate vulnerability with weakness, and try to avoid expressing themselves. In actuality, displaying vulnerability is not a weakness at all, but a powerful quality. Choosing Vulnerability is a conscious decision to not hide our emotions and desires from others. The act of being Emotionally vulnerable allows for deeper interpersonal connections. You’re openly revealing your flaws and vulnerabilities to others, and by doing so, gaining the ability to live your life in complete honesty and freedom.

Most people don’t grow up hearing that it’s natural and healthy to openly discuss their inner feelings. Being honest with yourself in the moment, and being honest with your partner, creates true intimacy and moments of powerful connection that deepen our lives. Leading with authenticity and honesty improves our relationships immeasurably.

Practicing Emotional vulnerability increases our self-awareness and ability to articulate our true feelings. It forces us to “get out of our head” and “into our body”. Being into our head – i.e., overthinking – only blocks us. Overthinking causes us to concern ourselves too much with what others think of us.

We can feel confused and overwhelmed by the conflict and disconnect between what society tells us we should do and say, and what we really want to do and say. When we’re into our body – i.e., just letting our body “do its thing” – we’re able to connect with our true selves, permitting us to have connections that are deeper than you might have ever thought possible. Emotional vulnerability is vital to becoming your true, unique self.

Principle 2

Courage and Emotional vulnerability go hand-in-hand. They’re two sides of the same coin, because only with courage can we be truly vulnerable.

Having Courage doesn't necessarily mean being fearless. Courage is acknowledging our fears and taking action in the face of them. Seeing our fears for what they are, and being courageous in spite of them. Fears are thoughts we conjure up in our heads that can be so debilitating we often run away from situations altogether. These thoughts usually revolve around fears of being ridiculed or rejected.

We have to befriend our sexual fears and fantasies. That’s not typically easy for most of us, and can require a higher level of “intimacy Courage” than you might presently possess. Developing that type of Courage can help open up whole new worlds of sexual comfort and freedom than you might have thought possible.

By developing Courage, you learn to realize that your fears don’t have the power to hold you back. By practicing Courage, you’re rising up and taking action regardless, and by doing so, your fears become deactivated and powerless. As you become more courageous, you find yourself taking more risks and receiving more rewards in return.

Principle 3

When you think of the erotic, you probably think of something involving intimacy or sexuality. We want to redefine the erotic to be more than just a function of sexual expression. Practicing Erotic embodiment enables you to be totally present in your body, so that you can tap into – and bring out – your natural erotic energy, your “internal fire”. Being comfortable with this erotic power inside you, your internal and external passions are fully ignited, and intimate connections & sexual experiences can manifest at their highest levels.

Being Erotically embodied means being confident in your own sexuality and how you express it. You have a noticeable openness about you. You know what turns you on and can guide your lover to please you. You create space in your life for self-exploration and pleasure. You walk in the world with a gentle “internal swagger”. Because you have this knowledge of yourself, you effortlessly become a better lover.

Principle 4

The first three principles of the ECEC® System synergize with each other and culminate in the powerful fourth principle of Confidence. Confidence is the state of feeling certain about your true self in relationships. This self-assurance arises from your appreciation for your abilities, qualities, and shortcomings. Building Confidence lets you trust your passions, and empowers you to take action in every aspect of your life.

Your Confidence is also a gift to others, whether they be intimate partners, close friends, or casual acquaintances. By naturally exuding Confidence, you raise the vibrations around you to a higher level. You attract others and put them at ease, which in turn raises their own Confidence. Armed with the Confidence to not question or doubt yourself, you have the ability to manifest whatever you truly desire.